Posted in Happiness, Life, Parenting, Poetry

Dear Life, Thank you!

For without reality
Where would I be?
One would hope
More than I see.
Change the past
Ignore the present
Forget the parents
Or being peasants…
For wanting more
Loses who we are
Where we’re going
Or even how far.
Or what was innocent
Or even dumb
What we felt
Or being numb…
And we learn
Just a little too late
Beyond missed hugs
Or present dates…
And we wake up
As others sleep
Like the lion
Consuming sheep…
And all the fails
Becomes victory’s win
And when we go to tell
Their gone by then…
But I was young
And you were old
And the middle came late
Before the story unfold.

Posted in Happiness

Personal Happiness Lessons – If only learned earlier.


1. Be true to yourself…
But not about yourself.

2. Love with your heart-
Lead with your mind in kind.

3. Appreciate why you have what you have-
You will learn so little is because of just you.

4. Spend what you have today-
Not what you make tomorrow.

5. Marry with a commitment-
Fight like you want to keep it.

6. Grow up when you are an adult-
Appreciate your childhood.

7. Be a parent to your child-
They cannot afford you to be their friend.

8. Follow and build a relationship with God-
Not a preaching or antagonizing people.

9. To free your soul-
You must forgive the sinner.

10. Appreciate NOW-
It is the only time that matters.

And finally….
11. You are the only watchman of your ego-
Never abandon the role.

Posted in Happiness, Poetry

Spiritual Freedom

Freedom bathes in simplicity
As burdens are lifted
A spirit is reborn.
God’s artistry trumps all others-
So much that even rocks are magnificent.

Too often the world is laden with melancholy chatter-
And filled with un-necessary things.
Here I stand on Your masterpiece-
While lacking so many things
It becomes everything.

Emancipate your spirit with wonders-
So few that man can provide.
Fill the heart with anticipation-
That the work will rise above yours-
And in its freedom – You are important to the masterpiece.

Posted in Happiness, Life, Poetry, Uncategorized

Dear Life

  Dear Life,
I remember living so many years ago-

And life was simple then.

Sunny days were spent outside,

And fun was what it should have been.

Winter storms were a blast when over-

Because forts and snowballs were fun.

And when Mom called us all inside,

We were sad the day was done.

I remember caring about the little things,

And noticing when they were new.

But lately I think I forgot to live

And I think you know that too.

The phones, TVs and various computers-

Have all my time spent.

The walls and cubicles have sucked the life-

That once was Heaven sent.

The schedules and plans take all the minutes

I used to plan with you.

My kids don’t seem to know real life

Because time is taken too.

So I went on a drive to take a walk-

That killed my legs and back.

And while I almost didn’t make it-

The effort was worth the path.

Rocky inclines and spots of snow

Challenged my strength indeed.

St. Mary’s Alice has also changed-

And lost its glacier need.

But when I reached the new end made

Life was in front of me.

So a change of pace changed my life-

And helped my eyes to see.

The walk was what I needed-

And I have a question too…

Dear Life are you looking for me?

Or am I re-finding you?


Posted in Emotional Intelligence, Happiness, Strength

Intelligence beyond your IQ

How smart are you? Do you know your IQ? Is that what makes you smart? Or is intelligence deeper than an IQ score?

Forbes Magazine published an article last year about successful people. No where on the list is a high IQ score. The article stated 10 traits of successful people. The traits listed were:
  1. Appreciate what they have
  2. Avoid asking WHAT IF
  3. Stay positive
  4. They disconnect – go off grid
  5. Limit caffeine intake
  6. They sleep
  7. Squash negative talk
  8. Re-frame their perspective
  9. They breathe
  10. Use their support system.
Quite a list, right? I do not disagree with anything on the list. Is it complete? No. People could always add to this list, and that is what I am going to do.
Successful people have Emotional Intelligence! What is that? Do you know? Psychology Today offered EI is the ability to identify and manage your emotions as well as emotions of others. Huh. What a concept! Can you imagine what domestic court systems would look like if the plaintiffs and respondents had emotional intelligence? We wouldn’t need so many lawyers or counselors for children! Can you imagine how successful your children would be if they built their emotional intelligence, and spent a lifetime doing that? provided 4 attributes of EI. I am going to start with their last one first.
Relationship management – Communicate clearly. It doesn’t matter what you said if the message wasn’t received! Develop healthy relationships. Maintain healthy relationships. More importantly – inspire others!! Notice this says nothing about bending them to your will.
Social Awareness – Recognize the power and dynamics of a group or organization. I know a lot of people who could use this skill! Understand emotions, needs, and concerns of somebody other than yourself. Crazy concept!

Self management – The ability to control yourself! Have you noticed some people judge other people’s responses, but they cannot control their own emotions? I have always found hypocrites interesting. I wish I could say I have never been one. Anyway, this is the ability to control impulsive behaviors, take initiative and follow through with commitments. Your world would be a happier place if you did!

Self awareness – Understand and recognize how your emotions affect everything! Emotions effect thoughts, behavior, develop strengths and weaknesses, and impact your self confidence. 

Here is a little trivia: Where does depression start? With feelings or thoughts? If you said feelings – you are wrong.
Why am I writing about this? Because the world is run by too much hate and emotional stupidity! People are consumed by their own feelings of anger and resentment, and feel comfortable feeling and spewing their hate. Even spitting on the grave of a deceased Supreme Court Justice! Our media is full of hate. Our politicians are full of hate. Social Media is full of hate. You might be too. And where is the happiness in any of it? There isn’t any. Trust me!
True success is happiness. Stop wasting your time on negative thoughts and feelings. Stop encouraging your friends’ negative thoughts and feelings. Instead gain the ability to harness your emotions and use them to think positively and maybe solve a problem or two in the process. 
Dr. Phil asked something interesting on a recent show. He asked: “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?” I thought that was interesting. Arguments occur because people are trying to be right, but how often do people look happy arguing? How often do they win what they want? A few have an ornery twinkle to their eyes when they achieve the task of getting under someone’s skin, but most people are just pissed off and unhappy. Who wins? Not you!
Stop the cycle. Stop the insanity. Build your Emotional Intelligence and then determine your list of attributes of being and staying successful. I would rather be happy, but I am always right anyway!