Category: Opinion

Calm Down



Look – I get that there is anger in the world. I get there are problems. I get that people have different opinions. I get it. Move on! Seriously – Move on!

Politics are out of control. I have spent months un-following all news media and miscellaneous items on my social accounts, and I have un-followed many people because they won’t give it a rest. Facebook and Medium have pushed me over the edge with this crap. Today – cherry – on top of cake!

So, on Facebook, I posted it was time to un-follow people because of their posts and liking political garbage. I explained enough was enough. I don’t care who like, I don’t care who you don’t like, I don’t care who you blame, and I don’t care about your political thoughts. I don’t. See – two years of BS is enough for me. Other people can’t move on. I am sorry for you. But don’t jam this crap down the throats of people who want to move on to happier topics. Really – there is more to talk about in this life.

Anyway, after the Facebook post, my father-in-law kept sending me political garbage in Messenger. Why? So, after several times of him sending me stuff, I sent the following message to him:
Reasonable, right? I thought I was nice about it. Well, I guess not. Because today I found out that not only did my father-in-law un-friend me, but he also blocked me on Facebook. Seriously?? Seriously??

Look, if you are so involved in the political garbage that is consuming the media, it is time to look at what really matters in YOUR life. Control your life. Control your thoughts. Grow up!

On Medium, trying to clean up the “for you” feed – it’s impossible. In fact – the more I click “show fewer stories like this” – the more I get. Like I am being punished or something for saying NO. I don’t get it. I don’t want to get it. I just want IT to leave me the hell alone.

I want poems. I want creative stories. If I want politics – I will go to CNN, MSNBC or FOX.

Lost Desire

Whether to our Father in HeavenOr the people down below

The debt to be paid for peace

Is one too few want bestowed.
So we live in regret and chaos

For it is much more comfortable there

For the mirage of coveted control

Makes the madness fair.
Chaos is needed in politics

For that is how politicians keep a job.

Just as a lawyer encourages the fight-

To have more hours to log.
Wishing for peace is simply a soundbite

And not an honest dream-

Any chance of the reality changing

Is a possibility that remains to be seen.

Politician definition by Merriam-Webster and ME

I found this interesting and it explains why politicians are so disappointing. Here is Webster’s definition:
“A person primarily interested in political office for selfish or other narrow usually shortsighted reasons.”

I think our choices look more bleak with each debate. BUT now I know politicians are just doing their job. Sad!

My definition is good too though:

A person who exhibits kindergarten-like behavior throughout their lifetime, a professional liar, and one who rarely gets things done beyond wearing a nice suit or dress.

To the future!

I am not crazy – Because I have wondered if I am.

Crazy people do not know they are crazy. Isn’t that what we are lead to believe? The world is crazy to a crazy person. The crazy people never believe they are never crazy. So I guess that means I am sane, because I have asked myself if I am crazy more than once. So far I haven’t gotten a YES back.

Do you ever wonder if you are crazy? You know – during the moments when your teenagers treat you as though you are stupid, or your boss acts like they are the reason the work got done, or when your significant other calls you crazy for calling them out on their stuff. Haven’t you ever wondered if you are crazy before you realized they are the ones who are nuts? Or does that just confirm you are crazy? Because after all you are thinking “they are crazy, not me.”

What about thinking you are crazy for daring to do something new and different and failing miserably many times in the process. Are you crazy then? Or does that make you a genius because eventually you get it right?

I suppose now I know why psychiatrists make so much money. After all – if you ask enough questions – you can make anyone look like they are crazy. Except for me! I am sane.


So bold are you
Who offer replies
To written words you’ve read.
So tough the language
You may use
With only hatred spread.
So demanding are you
In seeking respect
For all that you may feel.
So absent are you
Of the intent
Of the messages that you steal.
So sad the day
That we live
When safety is misunderstood.
So scared are you
Who hide in media
Spewing more thoughts than you should.
So deaf am I 
To your needs
When you have ignored all mine.
So blind are you
To yourself
Thinking your judgement will shine.
So wide the power
We all have
To communicate openly.
So blind the consequences
The world does have
In ignoring privacy.
So depressed our world
With abusing Power
In spreading thoughts to the mass.
So ignorant are we
In depending on
This too – shall pass.
So open your eyes
And shut your lips
Before you scream offense.
So better the world
You will make
By stopping ignorance.
So respect those around you
As your reply
Asked in response of them.
So stop the reaction
And build the thought
Before errors are written.
So open your heart
And your mind
When judging one’s message.
So open the reward
You will find
To the truth of the passage.
So choose to judge
And be judged
In all messages you read and write.
So smile
And enjoy a purer thought
And the rest will be alright!!


Not being bipolar does not make me an idiot! You being bipolar doesn’t make you smart. There! I said it! I have lived with someone battling bipolar disorder for many years. Each year I watch his illness become more consuming, and each year I blame him for it. Why? Because he was given a diagnosis and gave up. The diagnosis gave him an excuse to be an idiot.
I am not bipolar and I am not going to infer I understand what it is like to live with it internally. I have highs and lows but the extremes are different than what he experiences. I get it the best I can. I also understand that pills will not fix his life, and they are only tools to help him deal with it. After all, a student who has ADD doesn’t take a pill and then a paper writes itself or ace a test without studying. A lot of work still has to be done to be successful after taking medication. I understand while his diagnosis gives him a trial in this life that I do not have, I also understand that educating yourself beyond the prescription from a doctor is essential to continue living successfully. Psychiatrists are as good as their patients, and he is making his doctor look like an idiot.
First, let’s understand depression. True depression, not simply feeling depressed, is the result of a chemical imbalance in the brain. Depression isn’t the result of the death in the family, or the loss of a job, but that doesn’t mean depression can’t be triggered by life happening. Depression doesn’t acknowledge common sense. Knowing you have a family who loves you, and friends who care doesn’t make life better like it would for someone who is not chemically depressed. True depression often needs treatment using prescription medication, regular supervision from a doctor, and additional treatments. Just taking a pill doesn’t fix depression. It is just a tool to help a person get up and do the rest of the work. Medications for bipolar disorder are no different.
Google is amazing! Google helps you to search for most any answer you may need. However, all it does is pull up options to look at when you search a topic. It doesn’t open the article and read the article to you. People use the tool of Google to search for topics, but then have to do the work of reading and finding the answers he or she is looking for. Google has a lot of information on bipolar disorder, or I should say it helps pull a lot of information for it. WebMD is source pulled by Google in the first few options given when searching the topic. When you open the article for bipolar disorder it gives a very generic description of the disorder, and then provides a drop-down box to continue searching information. Here is a summary of the generic description from WebMD (“Bipolar health center,” 2015):

Bipolar disorder has extreme mood swings from depression to mania in patients. Bipolar

is a serious condition with serious consequences, but can be treated through therapy and 

Bipolar disorder is hell to live with, and I know that firsthand watching a loved one suffer from it. He goes to the doctor and takes his medications, and these actions are to his credit because people with any depressive disorder can be known to stop medication once they feel better. When the pills do not do enough, however; he takes more medication than he is supposed. He steals other people’s medications and has risked putting the entire family in danger with his theft, lies and deceit. Why does he do that? Does he not care about us? Well, him not caring about his family isn’t the problem, but it is a consequence of him not caring enough about himself to work hard and get help. A concoction of pills will never fix the problems he has. Work will.

I am only using WebMD for ease of basic information for this article, but there are many other resources out there. Moving forward, while the website talks extensively about medication and treatment it is not simply a source for medication understanding. If you are bipolar there is so much more that a patient has to do to become mentally healthy. WebMD provides the tip of the iceberg for additional treatment needed (“Understanding bipolar disorder,” 2014):

Routines help to manage bipolar disorder. A patient’s routines should include regular sleep, exercise and diet practices. Patients must learn to identify his or her warning signs early to control their symptoms of the disorder. 
Having bipolar disorder requires patients to work harder for everyday normalcy than those who do not have the disorder, and I understand that it is hard work. While I may not have the experience of having it – I have taken the time to educate myself about the disorder so that I can understand it and provide support. If you are a patient with the disorder you must educate yourself and act on the advice beyond what a doctor writes on a prescription pad! It is silly to be diagnosed with anything and then choose not to understand what it means. What happens when you do not educate yourself and work hard to find the solutions that work? Everyone around you suffers.
When I offer the information of what I have learned through research I have been met with anger and resistance. Because I don’t have bipolar disorder it means I have no understanding of it and therefore cannot give advice. That is the thought process of someone who is mentally ill and not working to feel better as needed. Instead it is him who has no understanding of bipolar disorder and he is the one living with it. He understands feeling ill, but he has never truly tried to understand what it takes to be healthy while having the disorder.
We all have trials and we all need support with our trials. Doing it alone and isolating yourself to find your own solutions will only result in negative outcomes. I understand that life in general is hard with the disorder, and I can only imagine the frustration of regular ups and downs that seem out of nowhere. I also understand through educating myself that the diagnosis doesn’t ruin your life – it just requires new disciplines to survive.


Understanding bipolar disorder. (2014). Retrieved from

Paris attack reactions

Hope is the purest form of expectation because it is a feeling of trust and desire. What does the world desire today? I have no idea. We live in a world of so much hatred that it feels like hope is something of past because it is something so rarely seen. When will people learn? What will it take to learn. With history’s knack for repeating itself it is hard not to fear the future. Yesterday, November 13th, makes me feel like hope is even more lost. The intolerance of the world has consequences to face.

On November 13, 2015 the world was shaken by carefully orchestrated attacks in Paris. So coordinated were the attacks that Al Qaeda was initially thought to blame by some news outlets. ISIS was quick to set the record straight and take responsibility for the attacks. Over 100 people were killed, but the true number is not firm at this time. Among the dead were some of the attackers. Seven attackers killed themselves and another shot dead by authorities. ISIS is a threat that I think few people comprehend. The hate they feel and use to carry out their attacks is not something I understand, but hate across the world is building beyond the powers of ISIS.

Across the world exists people who have experienced war before. The experience in the past will serve a small lesson for the trial of today. ISIS is fueled by hate and the need for power, and it will take the world to fight them. George Takei is an actor many people know from his role in Star Trek. After the attacks Mr. Takei posted on Facebook a message from his past experience:
“There no doubt will be those who look upon immigrants and refugees as the enemy as a result of these attacks, just as peaceful Japanese Americans were viewed as the enemy after Pearl Harbor. But we must resist the urge to categorize and dehumanize, for it is that very impulse that fueled the insanity and violence perpetrated this evening. Against the forces of darkness and terror, love and compassion shall always prevail.” I understand the motivation for Mr. Takei’s comments, but I also understand we are facing an enemy there is no future peace to exist with. This fight is not against a specific culture, people or country. The fight is against an organization that stretches against various countries and people, and threatens any group in its path. The enemy is fueled by the growing intolerance in this world.

The United States faced an enemy with a strong hatred as well. The enemy was Al Qaeda, and regardless of how people feel about the war that proceeded the 9/11 attacks, we were given a warning of larger enemy to be born. I remember watching George W Bush in a news conference once where he warned that if we did not continue to fight the war we would face a much larger enemy. Of all the times Mr. Bush was wrong I really wish this was one of them. Unfortunately he was very right and we face a much larger enemy and war.

Glenn Beck offered that the attacks in Paris were not a terrorist attack but instead the beginning of World War III. President Obama’s comments after the attacks offered the attacks were on us all, and just as France has stood by us in times of war, so too will be stand by France. The World lit up in the colors red, white and blue in support of France and to state a stance against our enemy. The world is once again in a war together.

I understand Mr. Takei’s fear that people will take justice into their own hands out of fear of who they could be. I understand his warning for people to not give into their hatred and act just like our enemy. Unfortunately this enemy will not be obliterated by love and compassion. The enemy is seeking places of love and compassion for their attacks, and will continue to attack until they are obliterated. Innocent people are going to die until the enemy is defeated. November 13th woke the world up to the progression of the enemy, and began the need to destroy or be destroyed. Unfortunately I agree with Mr. Beck that World War III is here. May God help us all to have the will and strength to save as many people as possible. Until then I hope people watch their words and actions of hate, and find a way to love and support all who need it.

Intelligence, Belief and Faith

A person’s intelligence is based on his or her individual capacity for learning, reasoning and understanding through mental activity. Intelligence levels affect the ability to grasp truths, relationships and facts from things one can hear, see, smell and touch. Intelligence helps people learn and determine fact versus fiction. The internet and common dictionary can teach people these truths about intelligence. What does intelligence have to do with beliefs?
Beliefs are based on trust and confidence. A belief helps people to know if something is true or exists. A belief can also start, grow and confirm a person’s faith. Religion and faith are often used synonymously. Does a person have to be intelligent to believe in something or have faith? Intelligence offers the ability to grasp truths, and a belief confirms a truth. Are they the same?
Faith can be defined as a system of religious beliefs and the observance of an obligation. Various church leaders often use obligations as a reason to follow beliefs. If a person lacks belief then he or she will not have the faith to follow an obligation. Faith may also be the perseverance of an idea and often plays a vital role in moral codes. Some scriptures offer that faith is that which is hoped for and not seen. When putting these three definitions together it is easy to see that faith, belief and intelligence are equally complicated, but serve together.
Organized religion allows for people to gather in groups according to common beliefs. Within their beliefs people often determine right or wrong according to a moral background common with their beliefs. When people belong to a religion they often live according to the standards of the group and worship using similar practices. Most religions worship only one God or deity, but may call their deity by a different name. Organized religions strengthen over time because of increased worshipers and a deep-seeded faith. The problem organized religion offers is it blinds individuals to anything beyond the beliefs they have been taught by people. The other problem is people who disagree or raise questions about their religion are often blacklisted and unable to worship with the group. Organized religion can block the growth of faith.
People should follow God and not organized religion. This is not saying that organized religion is wrong and you should quit going to church. This is saying that if you follow God first then people will not have the power to hurt your faith. A person following what people tell him or her to follow does not have faith in God, but faith in the people of a group. The problem with under-developed relationships with God is people are flawed, and if a person follows a group, and the group lets them down, faith in what they were doing is shaken. Stories about shaken faith are everywhere, and then people quit church and often lose the faith they had before.
I belong to a church but I am proud to say I do not follow the people. I have had several people let me down within my organized religion, and I have let people down, but my faith in God has always stayed strong. My church has also helped me when life was hard, and helped me and my family persevere, and this is God’s work inside my church. Keeping my relationship with God and my attendance at church separate has allowed me to keep both relationships strong in my heart without consequence. God helps me to have the intelligence to know when to ignore the people, and the faith to not question His answers.
My beliefs and faith were confirmed when I was a young teenager, and I was lucky that my experience had nothing to do with a church. In 1993 Pope John Paul II came to Denver, Colorado and I did not understand why so many visitors were coming to Colorado to see him. I am not catholic, and have never attended the catholic church, so I was very naïve about the significance of his visit. Anyway, an insane amount of people gathered at Mile High Stadium to see him for his visit. I remember thinking how stupid they all were because they were meeting at an open stadium and storms clouds were building all around it. I remember thinking “these people are going to get drenched just to see a man in a white robe.” Well, I could not have been more wrong, and God’s message to me more clear.
I was upstairs in my bedroom listening to loud music when my dad called for me. He wanted me to come outside to see the clouds and sunset. I thought this was a ridiculous request, but I went outside to see what the fuss what about. In a matter of seconds I would believe in God forever. I walked outside to see all these clouds that didn’t look nice, but amazingly there was a brake in the clouds, and the brake was in the shape of a hand with a palm and all five fingers. That’s right! A hand was carved out of the clouds, and the hand was over Mile High Stadium. Rain did not drench the people who traveled to see the Pope. Instead they were all protected for their worship.
Again, I am not catholic and this experience did not make me think I should be a catholic. Instead the experience proved God exists and that he protected people – even Catholics.  This experience has left me open to different faiths. I do not believe there is a right or wrong organized faith to belong to. I believe there are good and bad people in every group, and there are good and bad teachings in every group. If you do not build a relationship with God you will be void of the intelligence of what is good versus what is bad in any faith you choose.
God’s gift to us is the right to choose. God gave us free will. There are consequences to free will just as there would be consequences to total control. Good and bad exists in absolutely everything! Every trial has a gift and every gift a trial. Gifts and trials are different for everybody. You should never follow someone in the hopes of receiving their gifts, and you should never begrudge God for your trials. Our mortal lives require us to  have both, and we would not learn and grow without them. The loss of life for one can now mean more life for another. The loss of a life can bring out the strength in those left to live. Marriage between two people can bring sorrow for someone else. Gaining employments also means one or more people didn’t get the job. Rain may ruin your plans but it also allows for other things to grow. Faith may alienate you from some, but bring you closer to others. For every gift there was a debt to pay and the payment is not negotiable. If a person has his or her eyes open, and can truly see there is good and bad to everything, then exists the ability to have the intelligence to develop a belief and faith in God and all His works.
Leonardo da Vinci said “Oysters open completely when the moon is full; and when the crab sees one it throws a piece of stone or seaweed into it and the oyster cannot close again so that it serves the crab for meat. Such is the fate of him who opens his mouth too much and thereby puts himself at the mercy of the listener.(Greene, 1998, p. 33)” I hope my message was heard, and my message is simple: Build your own faith and beliefs. Allow yourself to listen to people with an open mind, but never sacrifice your intelligence for the sake of belonging to a group.


Rising Healthcare Costs

Americans continue to fight rising healthcare costs. The government for America has changed the healthcare system under a bill called Obamacare in an effort to make healthcare more accessible for the citizens. Is the healthcare system really America’s problem with healthcare costs, or is Obamacare an effort to ignore the real problem?
America faces an obesity problem. Many Americans are over-weight or obese including children. As America’s waistline continues to expand so do the rising healthcare costs due to health-related issues associated with obesity. The growing problem requires a solution, but so far the solutions offered by America’s political system have ignored the real problem. Schools are changing the menu for children who buy school lunches, the mayor of New York placed a soda ban on any soda drinks larger than 16 ounces in restaurants (Reimer, 2012), and a few lawsuits have been filed against soda makers misplacing blame for health tragedies. The solutions proposed by the government have yet to shrink America’s waistline, and the reason is the government refuses to acknowledge that obesity is the problem.
America’s weight problem travels beyond the soda drinker or the child with a chocolate treat in their lunch. Americans live a fast-paced lifestyle with non-stop travel between home, work, school, children’s activities and the like. The fast-paced  lifestyle is all-too-common and quick-meal solutions are a daily need for many Americans. Fast meals are often higher in fat, sodium and sugar. Fast meals are often less expensive than healthier choices. McDonald’s, for example, offers some healthy items on the menu, but a dinner salad in Colorado is closer to $6.00 while a double cheeseburger is only a dollar or two. The obesity problem continues to fester because too many people cannot afford the healthier dietary choices available in their fast-paced lifestyle. America must focus the marketing strategy for decreasing rising healthcare costs on the need for lower-cost health consumption choices. The lack of affordable healthy food choices is the problem for rising healthcare costs.
Danielle Gould from Forbes magazine offered “Americans know they are fat.” Her article offers  two-thirds of adults are overweight or obese, and one-third of children are cursed with the same problem. Obesity-related illness has a cost of $190.2 billion annually with research suggesting the cost will rise and increase to $549.5 billion annually by 2030 (Gould, 2012). Americans have a problem with their weight and soda bans and healthier school lunches will not fix the problem.
Health-related illness due to obesity is open to a wide-range of problems. Health-related illnesses include high blood pressure, high cholesterol, type 2 diabetes, congestive heart failure, heart disease, stroke, gallstones, gallbladder disorders, gout, osteoarthritis, some types of cancer, complications with pregnancy, poor reproductive health, bladder control problems and psychological disorders (“,” 2009). The problem with current efforts to control America’s waistline is the idea that we can change how people feel about their health by controlling what they consume in certain public places, but what is needed is offering better choices at lower costs.
Schools offering better lunch choices is not a bad idea, but having a no-junk-food policy is not a good idea. Many fad diets restrict the junk food people can consume, but many of them also allow a “free day” to enjoy something less healthy. Schools could follow the diet mindset by offering healthy choices Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday while making Wednesday a “free day” to enjoy pizza, a sweet treat and the like. The more you tell people “no” the more they will want what is being denied to them. Schools should also offer gym and activity classes daily. Children have larger waistlines not only from their calorie intake but from lack of activity as well. It is my opinion that gym classes are just as important as math, language, history and science classes. Adults could also use more activity and the government can reward people who seek out additional activity resulting in additional calories burned.
A business analysis evaluates the attractiveness of a solution, as well determines profit, loss and cost projections for the solution. The risk analysis for changing a healthcare system versus producing healthier choices should be conducted. The government will never make every citizen happy, but the government should not control the food sent to school for children to eat during the day either. Americans must invest in producing healthier food choices at lower costs for consumption. Costs continue to rise for many reasons including over-consumption, rising transportation costs, as well the price to harvest fruits, vegetables and animals for our food supply. The plan to lower costs involves more than fertile ground for producing healthier choices, and all costs must be considered to find solutions. America must adopt the mindset to eat healthier while the government works to make a healthy lifestyle more affordable.
The government must discontinue the parental control they are trying to force on the citizens of America. The government controlling soda drinking in public, and food choices in schools will not shrink America’s waistline. Americans have created their own problems with healthcare costs and each person needs the cost options available to develop solutions.  Americans must make a healthy lifestyle a priority and the government must concentrate on making healthier choices available and affordable. The real problem is simple and the costs likely lower than Obamacare or anything else the government has done so far. America you are fat and it is time to fix the real problem with healthcare costs!